What does healthy intimacy look like?
Most people think sex when I mention the word intimacy, they assume I am speaking about sexual intimacy. Although sexual intimacy is one of the types of intimacy it is not the only type.
I have often heard the saying “sex is the glue that holds marriages/relationships together”, I believe this to be a limited perspective, don’t get me wrong in lover relationships I feel that sex is beautiful, important and a point of growth and meeting that is exquisite. However, I believe it is intimacy which supports relationships to flourish, and it is not only found between the sheets.
What does an intimate relationship look like?
Intimate relationships are relationships that have resilient emotional bonds. One aspect of this is there is a commitment to repairing connection when there has been a tear in the connection.
Intimacy requires emotional awareness and action.
It can look like this: A conversation after a hurtful fight…
Person 1: “Hi… I can feel the tear in our connection after the fight we had yesterday. I said some hurtful things, I was angry and scared. I am sorry. Would you be open to talking about it again and trying to find a solution?”
Person 2: “I am still feeling tender and bruised and not quite ready to speak about it yet. Can we talk about it this evening?” (And then actually having the conversation)